It is easy to fall into a pattern. The challenge comes in working to break the pattern that you have fallen into. Patterns come in various form, in what we eat, and what we do. Some of our patterns can be good for us and work to our advantage, while others can create more of a problem for us.
In relationships it is easy to fall into bad patterns or habits of taking your partner for granted, and this happens often times over the years. Sometimes because we get so caught up in our own going-ons that we forget that we have chosen to share the experience of a relationship with another person, but yet we expect them to be there waiting for that moment when we decide that we want to spend time with them.
The thing that we so often don’t realize is that we are creating a bigger problem then there needs to be, and in many cases fixing the relationship is after we have fallen into patterns is easier said then done. Each person whether they admit it or not needs some form of affection and spontaneity. It is one of the reasons that we connect with other people.
So, how can a relationship last if one or both are neglecting the other? Simple – it can’t. There are many reasons why a couple may not be able to be intimate with each other, but no good reason why they can not remain affectionate towards each other.
So, if your relationship has reached a point where you can no longer be affectionate than maybe you have reached a point where you are somewhere you no longer need to be. Being somewhere where you are not happy or where you don’t want to be makes no sense at all.
Relationships are work, but they can and should also bring great pleasure to both individuals in the marriage. If you are not in a relationship that makes you happy, lifts you up, and makes you feel good and you have reached a point where you are in a relationship where you are going through the motion than it is time that you start putting in the work to achieve true happiness or hit the road to find your happiness. Are you willing to do the work? Are you willing to do whatever it takes to make your marriage a success?
